When I queried that with ‘But I could barely get a word out edgewise’. He brushed that off, saying the listeners - all men in that particular meeting, were showing ‘engagement’ as they interrupted and talked over me. His consolation took me straight back to my 8 year old self complaining to my mother that a particular classmate had pushed me with the explanation ‘He must like you!’ - a brush-off I hope we’re growing out of when the truth is were talking about bullying and even assault.
No doubt you’ll have winced when you’ve seen female politicians, business leaders, and even women colleagues interrupted. Interruptions happen to all professionals, but as you probably guess because you’re reading it here - not equally. https://news.stanford.edu/2018/05/02/exploring-interruption-conversation/
A University of Stanford study of 5,000 Americans focused how men and women interrupting with identical scripts were perceived by listeners. Women who interrupted a speaker were judged by male listeners as ruder, colder and even less intelligent than men interjecting with the exact same words. On the other hand, women listeners showed no gender bias; rating male and female interrupters the same way.
Given women speak up less in meetings in any case, take it seriously when they chose to go against expected gender norms by interrupting - it likely means they feel very strongly about the point they are raising. To this point, if you find yourself at this type of meeting as a listener, two things you can do to support the interrupter would be:
1. Support her with ’Sorry to go deeper on this (acknowledging your continuing the interruption), but Sarah raises a good point.’
2. Before people question Sarah’s motives later, ask ‘What was useful about Sarah getting to the heart of the matter?’